today would have been doug's mama's 84th birthday, conveniently falling this year on mothers day. she passed away in 2011 just a few month before i had madeline, meaning i unfortunately couldn't go to the funeral as i was too heavily pregnant, plus doug had just returned to new zealand a few weeks earlier for her husbands funeral - they died just weeks apart. mama was the queen of our hearts... she was the down and out the most loved person in doug's family, to know her was to love her. i can clearly remember the first time i met her... i loved her so much that i learned the only words i ever needed in samoan (she didn't speak a word of english)
alofa ia te oe... i love you.
mama was always surrounded by her family right until the very end. when we visited in new zealand for doug's cousins wedding i got to know her by convincing the younger cousins to sit between us and translate. it worked well enough for me... but i am well and truly looking forward to getting to know this beautiful woman in the eternities, when language will no longer be an issue.
mama and papa flew all the way to perth for our wedding, she looked so happy to be there with us. mama smiled all day long and kept hugging the two of us, it was truly a pleasure to have her there. my sister in laws mother pam took this amazing photo that has been cherished by doug's extended family and used over and over by all of us. such a beautiful woman.
doug's mum told me of a phone call that she had had with mama shortly before she passed away, mama had told her of a dream she'd had the previous night where papa had come to her and asked her to follow him. he'd told her that they still had a lot of work to do and they needed to get started. she passed away not even a week later. they were never meant to be apart for long.
mama you're the queen of our hearts
happy birthday, until we meet again...