toilet training

well. i think she's done! actually no. she's almost done...

***disclaimer, some oversharing will follow - if you're a parent or a really good friend of ours, feel free to keep reading, if not, you might want to stop. now. ***

don't say you weren't warned...

miss madeline is finally weeing and pooing on the toilet. i've used the way that most people i know have, stay home for a week or so, give them undies and keep putting them on the toilet. accidents will happen, but they start to learn and start to tell you (or answer when you ask) that they need to go and making their way to the toilet or asking for your help to do so. or, in early days here, sobbing that they need a nappy, which was of course a dead giveaway...

we have of course had some accidents, and even a few in the last few days, but she is using the toilet. i tried and tried and tried just before joseph was born, and then again just after, but she just wasn't ready. but a few weeks ago, i decided that she needed to be using the toilet by the time she turned three so i tried yet again - and this time it worked! she weed on the toilet without too much persuasion and drama, but poos just weren't happening, like last time, she would wait until she had her night nappy on. there was something about pooing on the toilet that just really didn't sit well with her, no matter how hard we tried.

however as the few weeks went by, one day she came to me and told me that she had pooed in her undies, so i took her into the toilet, and let it drop into the toilet while she sat there... then cleaned her up and gave her some new undies... she raced back outside to finish her game, then i heard her come back inside, climb up on her step and then yell, "mum i did a poo in the toilet!" finally! she was pleased to do it again a few times and show off, so maybe we have finally gotten it. especially when i heard her teeny feet run into the bathroom the other morning and then a little tinkle, and then caught her on the toilet pooing the next afternoon, both without encouragement.

a few things i have learnt...

the best way for kids to learn is by having an accident, or two or twelve.

bribery works. everytime. don't be afraid to offer rewards.

let your kid pick their own undies at the store, so they are excited to wear them.

let them call someone special in their life as a reward (and to show off) when they do either poo or wee on the toilet for the first time (this really worked for us, madeline loves the phone and loved to show off, plus, with both sets of grandparents being far away, they loved being involved!)

not every child will use the potty or a training seat - ours only wanted to sit on the big seat and hold the sides and would not have it another other way.

night training comes later... let them wear a nappy to bed and just bask in daytime training being done

if you're not at home, ask and remind your child constantly if they need to use the toilet, outside of their own space, somewhere they don't see the toilet every few minutes, they can easily forget.

have a step in front of the toilet and another in front of the basin. makes hand washing easier and more likely to happen without a constant reminder.

and most importantly...

if they are not ready - do not push it. maddie is so smart and knew exactly what was going on, but just was not ready to be toilet trained, and i honestly think by trying to force her, i delayed it by another few months. lesson learnt.

so... we are almost there. mostly dry days accomplished. now onto nights. please if you have any trade secrets, let me know!

i'm just a mother

being the primary music leader i don't often get to go to relief society at all, but today i obviously arrived at the perfect time, and got so much out of the lesson! the lesson was about the blessings of motherhood and sometimes it's something we need to hear. 

the sister giving the lesson read from a book called "i am a mother" by jane clayson johnson (which you can buy here... but she so kindly loaned to me to read.) johnson tells of how she had a promising career in television and was watched by millions each day in her job as an anchor on a major network, but gave it up after following a prompting to do so, to be a mother. she met many "you must be crazy's" and even a little ridicule from co-workers, who assured her she would never again be given the opportunity she had. but it didn't matter, motherhood is an opportunity not given to all, which also must be taken when you have the chance.

she attended a function with her husband on one occasion and was asked, along with the other couples attending to introduce herself. she recalls listening as each woman got up beside their husband, and offered a little about themselves, most saying almost apologetically, "oh, i'm just a mother" "my life isn't very exciting right now, i'm just raising our children" or something of the likes. even before the excerpt from the book was finished i already knew what was wrong. there is no such thing as just a mother.

i have been guilty of that myself, when asked, i often tell people i am on maternity leave from my position in the funeral home where i have worked for almost the last ten years and i am trying to decide if i will return to work. or i simply say, i am a funeral director. never, "i am a mother." there's certainly no shame in being a mother and i know that, but it seems to be the way of the world to not want to be "just" that. i right then and there made a mental note to tell the next person who asked, "i am a mother."

there have been many times when i have asked young children what they want to be when they grow up. most tell of something outrageous... i think last time i asked my daughter madeline, she wanted to be a princess, the time before, an ice dancer, (we had just been to disney on ice, mind you) and the time before that a doctor (i am fairly certain we were playing with a doctors kit that day.) but every time i have asked my niece grace (by name and nature...) she has always answered that she wants to be a mother. even before i had children, i knew this was the most beautiful answer. i remember the day her father laid his hands upon her head to give her a blessing and told her she would one day be a mother. it was such a simple, but beautiful promise for her.

not all women are mothers directly to children they have grown in their womb or given birth to. we know of the blessings of adoption, of fostering... and for those not blessed with children, of being an example to nieces and nephews, young cousins and the children of other family members and close friends. it has often been said that "it takes a village to raise a child" and i must admit, with the love and support shown within the confines of the gospel, i think it often takes a ward to raise a child.  

being blessed with two children of my own, i have never felt the pain of not being blessed with children, that i know is only too real for so many women. i admire those who have not been blessed with children that do not allow it to consume them. that do not allow it to make them bitter, as i do not know if i could be so strong. i am thankful for those who have that to bear, yet show kindness and love to the children of others amongst that pain. 

i know some days i find myself muttering under my breath when my children are being difficult. some days i even find myself wishing they weren't there, only to feel terribly guilty two minutes later because i can't even imagine life without them. but being a mum isn't always easy. sometimes it's horrid. no one tells you about how hard it will be. it's not always smiles and laughter and pretty clothes. sometimes it's being awake all night, cleaning up after sickness, hearing your name being called 5000000000000 times (i don't even know if that's enough zeros) in one day, tantrums, mess, jealousy and many other things. but like any mother, i'll take them all, for even 5 minutes of my babies in my lap sleeping, laughing or just being with me.

i am a mother. it's hard. but it's worth it.

maddie's princess party

madeline's long awaited princess party was today! (i know i share the sentiments of every mother that has ever thrown a party for their child when i say thank goodness it's over... haha) we had an awesome, drama free, fun day and i am so glad to those who came to celebrate with us and those who helped make it a success.

 i decided quite some time ago to run with a pink and gold theme after spying this amazing dress on pre-sale at tutu irresistible boutique via facebook. a friend had tagged me in the picture saying it was something she could see madeline in. well, she was right. we snapped it up and started planning away. 

dominique took miss madeline across the road to the oval to take some pictures before we got started and got some gorgeous shots. i swear i need to make some money off my kids and put them in for child modelling, it's like they were born to be in front of the camera... (when they want to be of course.)

(shoes from cotton on kids - gold glitter no longer available,
but same minus glitter here

necklace from cotton on kids

glitter clip from a random facebook handmade store - similar here

and her amazing leather crown from hubble and duke here in perth!!)

we had everything all set up and ready to go when they came back... and madeline was absolutely thrilled. she came running through the front door, straight out the back to inspect everything. when she was done, back inside she came, stopping in front of the table - clasping her hands together and twirling on the spot before blurting out "thank you for making my party!!" what a sweetheart. she was so happy, which of course, made everything all worth it.

(table, chairs and covers hired from party promises)

finished goodie bags - you can see contents in details here

the food was all, good, tasty and kids party worthy

chocolate crackles, caramel popcorn, corn fritters, brownie recipes (as pictured) can be found by clicking on each word. iced cookies by my amazing best friend and savoury muffins by her mama.

  

maddie is no exception to the rule of children loving to open presents. she was given some lovely gifts by her little friends (and her big friends aka my friends) and it was so nice to see her not only excited and so grateful to receive them. i have to admit my favourite was the dumbo onesie from peter alexander and matching mother daughter scarves from my friend hayley. thats probably because part of the gift was for me as well... well played.

the crown making kits were a big hit and the girls got stuck into them, making them quickly... loving having their own crown to wear. little girls are so lovely - it was adorable to see the looks of utter concentration on their faces as they put them together.

joseph chilled with daddy while i ran around with the girls. he was so well behaved and barely even grizzled as we passed him from person to person. what a trooper. 

we of course had to have the token kids party games, including my version of pin the tail on the donkey "pin the crown on the princess" easiest way to do it outdoors... i had my arty sister in law draw a  simple princess on the brick wall in chalk, then gave each of the girls a cardboard crown (cut out of gold card) with blu tack on the back... blindfold, spin spin spin... and stick it on the wall. 

super fun and super easy - and to get it off the wall,
just spray it with the hose.

miss madeline, a bit unsure, but eager to taker her turn.

the after shot - and yes someone did manage to get the crown exactly on the princesses head. i am so convinced she could see haha, but you don't really accuse kids of that unless it's your own!

we also played pass the parcel, which was the slowest game of. all. time. i am desperately hoping that as kids get older and understand a bit more that they start to pass it a little faster!! i am keeping in mind that they are all between 3-5 right now.

finally it was time for cake - and for me to tell you all about this amazing cake. my best friend jen and her husband arrived about 10:30am and started to assemble this masterpiece with every single cake decorating accessory you have ever seen in your life. it was incredible to watch. i am so very grateful to have had a cake supplied each year for madeline's birthday and think that she is so very very clever. what a lucky girl i am, to have such a great (and generous) best friend.

madeline loved the castle cake and kept dragging everyone to look at it. she was so proud... "come and look at my cake! my cake! it's a castle. like the princesses has." haha. i am glad she liked it so much (and she would want to after that much effort!)

everyone's favourite part of a birthday, blowing out the candles and cutting the cake up - although the top layer was more than enough for all the guests - so the bottom part is now sectioned in our freezer and we shall be enjoying it greatly in the months to come. 

she was a little rockstar, posing happily for photos and smiling her big happy grin at the camera. what a sweet little girl.

me - very happy at the end of the day... and the verdict? the princess party was a raging success, all went perfectly according to plan, the birthday girl was thrilled, the guests had a good time - and now we wait - to do it all again in a years time. so... it's back to the drawing board.

good night! x

party prep

today i got to work prepping things for miss madeline's princess party this saturday. twelve little girls have been invited, so i am a little nervous that i won't be able to keep them entertained and that they'll run riot, for this reason i am trying to be ultra prepared and have everything sorted wayyyyyy ahead of time.

 the pass the parcel has already been wrapped, with some fabulous prizes (for the inbetween layers and the middle!) care of my beautiful friend keryn from bella blooms who also made the custom hairclips for the goodie bags. you can see some more of her goodies here!

i decided upon visiting spotlight last week and seeing their amazing gold glitter paper that the little ladies needed a placecard each at their table, so i then spent the next hour tracing off my laptop screen onto baking paper to get the letters i wanted (you then press the other side of the baking paper with the pencil to transfer your (back to front letter) on to the back of the paper you're cutting from.) super easy and the letters looked awesome! even cooler once they were stuck down on the pink card. (side note, the font if you are wondering is cooper std black at size 150)

i am so in love with this glitter paper, i just want to use it for everything!

placecards all ready to go

i also had to prep the "crown making kits". i am always so proud of myself when i manage to think of a good idea myself and haven't stolen it from pinterest... so this one i am showcasing for sure. i had this idea to get gold paper crowns (i was totally going to cut them from card, but then we found them precut in a pack of 10 from riot art and craft) winner. they also had the stickers i wanted, so we got some cool felt, shiny, glow in the dark and crystals in different shapes and sizes, then divided them up between the bags. we'll let them decorate and then pop a few staples in the back to secure them.

the only issue was, the crowns weren't gold, so i then had to make them so. a can of spraypaint later - easy done, dried in the garage over night. and they looked much better gold too. good choice. i am really hoping that making a crown keeps the kids entertained for more than 5 minutes.

pale pink goodie bags from the discount store at the local shopping centre... with a gold sparkly crown i bought from an etsy store here in the u.s. i could not find them anywhere else, but let's be honest - there was no way i was cutting each one of those out and staying sane, so it was worth the postage to get them here.

and the contents, because lets be honest, everyone's favourite part of a party is the goodie bag...

a mini stamper pen (discount store - came in a packet of 10)

stick on earrings and plastic ring (as above, packet of 7)

2 gold balloons (big w - they were nice gold metallic ones)

princess stickers (reject shop, 12 pages to a sticker book)

custom hair clips (bella blooms)

turkish delight (totally matched the pink and gold theme)

metal and crystal ring (best ebay purchase! i bought them here and thought meh, they'll be okay for the goodie bags, but they were such good quality and i was shocked more than i can explain as the pictures made them look so cheap and tacky and they were actually pretty decent quality, $6 including delivery for 20! storing that away for future reference...)

happy birthday jen

today was my best friend jen's birthday. jen and i have known each other since primary school, been best friends since high school and know each other like the back of our hands. (side note, i have always thought it was so random that people say that - do people really know the backs of their hands that well?? i am fairly certain i couldn't describe mine to someone...) she is the friend that i laugh with, cry with, laugh until i cry with... the girl that knows all my secrets and who i share all my inappropriate jokes in every situation with. she is the best of all best friends, and i am so glad she's mine.

mat, her husband, called us and asked us to come up to the farm for the day and have a bbq... there was no mention of a fire, but being that the invite came from mat, it's winter and we were going to the farm, i should have assumed... cause there was one. of course.

maddie of course thought it was christmas and her birthday all at once as she ran about the place unsupervised (really, there's not much she could do to hurt herself) looking at everything and chatting to everyone. she even came into the sheep paddock and had a look at them, but definitely wasn't game enough to pat them, even though mummy was. she was safely perched behind my leg, hanging on for dear life. we also looked at the emu, who was up the back of the paddock, so she felt safe enough to point him out me and yell things to him. funny kid.

and of course, we had to have a go on uncle mat's ride on esky. she loves that thing and would ride it all day if we would let her. mat has to keep turning it off and shooing her away when she got too close. she certainly loved mummy being brave enough to take her for a spin though.

and our little boy was more than happy to chill with dad and be comfortable and warm in his puffy vest, sleeping on and off for most of the day. i love how happy to warm makes the kids. it's a lovely reminder of my childhood and the time i got to spend running about, playing in the dirt and generally making mischief. i am so glad that my best friend and parents live in lovely clackline and have given my children the opportunity to do the same. 

melinda's bday ❤️

today was my friend melinda's bday and her lovely husband aitu invited us all to come for birthday dinner. i decided to do something fun and broke out the kenwood to make a purple velvet cake! i have made something similar in the past for one of the missionaries that served in our ward, (which you can see here along with the recipe) but decided that i'd try it in purple this time around. 

it looked awesome and tasted pretty good... i'll keep the recipe ready for the next birthday!

4 months old

baby joseph is 4 months old! so it's time for an update... 

after seeing the osteopath a few times, he is feeding beautifully and is practically a different child. so sweet and smiley, with the exception of the "witching hour" (as i like to call it - i am sure all mums are familiar with this - between 4-6pm, when they are getting tired and ready for their feed and bath before bed) he makes all kinds of noises, gooing and gahhing and gurgling when you speak to him, almost as if he is trying to speak back... i'm sure, basing my suspicions on miss madeline, it won't be long.

he had his 4 month appointment on friday for his needles and i had the nurses weigh him, he's clocking in at a hefty 8.3kg - and i whipped out the tape measure when we got home for his baby book - he's 65cm long now. wowsers. i've just broken out the 00 size clothing for him, including an "all blacks" onesie that friends of ours bought madeline as a gift for her first birthday! (bit of a size difference!)

he is sleeping all night (yay for this mama!!) and has also started to grab at things that you hold by him, or pass to him. such a smart boy! his cheeky smile (and that simple, that i have no doubt will break hearts when he gets older) and amazing... you can't take your eyes off him when he is smiling - and he gets mad if you do! he follows everyone's every move around the room... ensuring you don't leave him alone, cause if you do - he will call out and start whingeing until you come back. 

he still has bright blue eyes, much to everyones delight - they are amazing. i am 100% pleased to report that he looks like his mama. especially those eyes. he is growing well (maybe a little too well... haha) and getting cuter by the day! we love our baby boy and are so glad he's here with us.