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Monday, July 2, 2018

let us oft speak kind words: a relief society first sunday council



LET US OFT SPEAK KIND WORDS

The adult human body is 60% water, the brain is 73% water. So keep that in mind while you watch this video... (what is rice cooked in? water!) harsh or kind words will have an effect on our bodies over time!

Have we thought of the effects our words have on others? 


Words have been found to affect water crystals. Japanese researcher and healer, Dr. Masaru Emoto, conducted experiments on water molecules. These experiments showed human thoughts and intentions can physically alter the molecular structure of water. Specifically, the water crystals were altered simply through conscious intention.
Water from bottles labeled with positive messages had intricate structures and diamond-like reflectiveness when frozen and magnified. Water labeled with negative words had collapsed structures with yellow edges when frozen.
Dr. Emoto demonstrated that words have a vibration and will actually alter the structure of water crystals. He found that uplifting, positive, and encouraging words created beautiful, balanced and symmetric crystals. Destructive, hateful and evil words had the opposite affect on the water crystals. The visual evidence is breathtaking.
We use the transformational power of words every day. You control this incredible force because your thoughts become your words. You are the master of your ship, guiding it to safe lands of prosperity, abundance, happiness, and freedom. Choose your words wisely and be the agent of positive change in a world that desperately needs you.
Using words is a major key to the effect we have on others. It is implemented into everything, boldly and subtly, in our daily lives. We must believe in the power of words. As we consistently hear hopeful and uplifting words, their influence brings hope and joy to our thoughts. By changing the words we think, speak, act, write, listen, read, and wear, we can improve ourselves and others. (Source: https://www.samson.life/blog/effect-words-water)

How do you feel when someone is unkind to you?
How does it feel to be constantly belittled by someone over a long period of time?

How do you feel when you’ve been unkind to someone?

Johnny Lingo - Mahana became a beauty when she was told she was beautiful. For those who aren't familiar with the story, you can watch it here.



mahana whilst she believed she was ugly and useless 

Our words and actions must uplift – not tear down
One thing we often tend to overlook is the power in our words and and actions and how they might affect the people around us or even our feelings about ourselves. Mahana’s Father conveys this powerfully as he speaks about her in preparation for the negotiations. He says: “She’s as foolish as she is ugly… I’m ready to give him a cow just to have him take her off my hands”

Imagine being the butt of all the jokes as everyone gathers to witness the negotiations regarding your worth. Your already tender feelings are only exacerbated as you overhear the villagers make fun of you and the impending proposal. Your father thinks you are foolish and ugly and even goes too far so as to say that you have no worth. You would need to be sold – or so he thinks, for you to be married. The travesty in this is not that everyone else thinks this of you, including your own father – but that you are probably starting to think that about yourself too!

This is heartbreaking – especially when it comes from the people who you love the most. It makes sense that we let their words have so much power over us. They are people that we love and the ones we assume love us too, so what they think and say and feel about us matters!
Be careful with your words and especially with your actions. Be one who builds up and uplifts. Use your words to help make someone feel good about themselves. Be generous with your compliments and sparing with your criticisms. And remember – Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth!

Many things can happen to make a woman beautiful. The thing that matters most is what she thinks of herself. 


mahana once she believed she was beautiful and loved ♥

moral of the story: let us oft speak kind words to each other!

Sunday, October 1, 2017

sustaining our leaders: a relief society lesson


the first sunday of each month brings a lesson taught by a member of the ward relief society presidency. we choose the topic ourselves, trying to think of a subject relative to the sisters in our ward, something we hope they may personally benefit from. i felt inspired during our most recent stake conference to speak about sustaining our leaders (might have been somewhat brought on seeing as a new stake presidency was announced) so here we are. here's the lesson i gave today... i hope it may be beneficial to someone reading ♥

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I felt particularly inspired during the final talk of stake conference to focus my lesson today on sustaining our church leaders.

Let’s begin today by making a list of words that mean the same thing as sustain:
(These were all written on the whiteboard, examples included: 
uphold, comfort, help, assist, encourage, succour, support, give strength to, be a source of strength to, be a tower of strength to, buoy up, carry, cheer up, hearten, see someone through, undergo, suffer, bear, support, stand, keep up, prop up, shore up, bolster, underpin…)

Pretty much every Sunday a member of the bishopric reads out callings and releasings at the beginning of our sacrament meeting. We raise our hands to sustain someone who has just received a new calling. Most of the time it’s an automatic reaction. Some Sundays we may not even really listen to the names of the people we are sustaining. It’s simply part of our Sacrament Meeting routine. Despite this failing on our part, it is actually a very sacred action and one we need to do with a thoughtful and prayerful heart. It is a critical motion with eternal consequences and it comes with responsibilities.

READING 1: “It is a serious wrong in the presence of the Almighty for one to vote to sustain the authorities of the Church and then to go away and oppose them and trample under foot the counsels that they give; and we will be judged of the Lord for it (President Joseph F. Smith, Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Joseph F. Smith, 1998, 218–19).

So when we raise our hand to sustain someone, whether it is the nursery leader or the prophet, what are we really doing? We are not voting. We don’t get to choose who will serve in the calling. That was already prayerfully taken to the Lord by the person who had the authority to do so. We are, instead, agreeing to accept callings or assignments from them if they are in a position to offer them, to help them in any way we can. Our sustaining is a vote of confidence in the person. We are promising to support them in their work and (something I think we should all remember) to speak well of them. We are committing ourselves to accepting that their call came from God.

READING 2: Sister Terrie Bittner, author of “What Does It Mean to Sustain our Leaders” on the website Mormon Women Stand, said that this truth was brought home for her, one day when she called and asked someone to substitute for her in Primary. This sister admitted that teaching Primary was not her favourite thing, but that she had raised her hand to sustain her when she was called, and so, accepting my request for help was part of the promise she had made to God that day. She substituted and worked hard to give the class a wonderful experience. She then went on to say, “ I wondered then if I had ever worked so hard to carry out my covenant to sustain someone in a calling. I believe that is what sustaining someone is—a covenant with God.”

That is something we would all do well to remember when we are extended an assignment or asked to assist with a lesson, an activity or simply just to attend those lessons or activities that people have put so much effort into.

READING 3: “It is an important duty resting upon the Saints who … sustain the authorities of the Church, to do so not only by the lifting of the hand, the mere form, but in deed and in truth.” This statement was made in 1898, when President Smith was Second Counsellor in the First Presidency. (Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Joseph F. Smith (1998), 211.)

READING 4: "No person is to be ordained to any office in this church, where there is a regularly organized branch of the same, without the vote of that church." (Doctrine & Covenants 20:65)

We have an opportunity to sustain—support, help, pray for—each of these people in their callings. We indicate our willingness to do so by raising our right hands when their names are read to us in general conference, stake conference, ward or branch conference, or sacrament meeting. Raising our hands is a sign to us, to them, and to the Lord that we will sustain them.

Do any of you recall watching General Conference in April 2015, when during the Saturday Afternoon Session of Conference during the sustaining of the church officers, several members stood and loudly opposed our first presidency? How did it make you feel? I DO remember it well and I felt sick to my stomach. I remember saying angrily to my husband, how could someone do that? How dare they? Why bother going to conference if you don’t agree with them? That’s the whole POINT of going to conference, to listen to them!

Mormons, like everyone else, are opinionated people. We will often have more experience than the person called to lead. We sometimes have personal beliefs that cause us to want things to be done differently than they are. However, once God has approved a calling, we are expected to become humble followers of this person. While this may seem hard or short-sighted, we will someday be the one who is sustained into a calling we are less qualified for. Then we will hope others will be patient and supportive during our time.

Jesus taught us to treat others the way we ourselves want to be treated. The Church is not like the world. We don’t always fill our positions with the most qualified person. (Although with modern politics you have to wonder!) Often the person in the calling is there because there is something he can learn from it. Other times he is there because there is a specific situation or person he can best help, even if he’s less qualified for other parts of the work.

God moves us around to various callings in order to help us grow. We are called to sustain them, whether or not we think they are qualified. God calls; God qualifies. Sustaining people is a covenant we make at the local level. It is also a covenant when we sustain the prophet and the apostles. We covenanted in the waters of baptism and in the temple to follow Jesus Christ and God, and we covenanted to follow the prophet as the Lord’s mouthpiece in our time. To do anything less is to violate our sacred covenants. To do anything less is to decide God made a mistake—and God never makes mistakes.

READING 5: “When we sustain the President of the Church by our uplifted hand, it not only signifies that we acknowledge before God that he is the rightful possessor of all the priesthood keys; it means that we covenant with God that we will abide by the direction and the counsel that comes through His prophet. It is a solemn covenant” (David B. Haight, Solemn Assemblies, Ensign, Nov. 1994, 14–15).
To do otherwise is dangerous. Joseph F. Smith said: “Men may become dissatisfied one with another, they may become dissatisfied towards the Presidency, the Quorum of the Twelve, or others, and may say in their hearts, “I do not like such an one; I do not believe he is as good as he should be, he has too many faults and weaknesses and, therefore, I cannot and will not acknowledge his authority, as I have not faith in the man.” Doubtless there are those, too many perhaps, who feel that way, but the trouble is, … just because they have become dissatisfied with the individual and harboured feelings of bitterness in their hearts against their brethren, they lose sight of the designs of the Almighty; they turn against the authority of the Holy Priesthood; and through their blindness allow themselves to be led astray, and at last turn away from the Church.”

One of the temple recommend questions is “Do you sustain the President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as the Prophet, Seer, and Revelator and as the only person on the earth who possesses and is authorized to exercise all priesthood keys? Do you sustain members of the First Presidency and the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles as prophets, seers, and revelators? Do you sustain the other General Authorities and local authorities of the Church? Please note that it includes local authorities. So whether we agree with their decisions or not, we must accept them and remember these men (and women!) have been called of the Lord and are his mouthpiece. What it all comes down to for me, is “Is the church true?” Of course it is! Then we are safe in the care of our leaders, because they Lord picked them.

You might not like someone that is called to a position in the gospel, especially a position of authority, but you should sustain them anyway. For those of you who attended the most recent stake conference, you would have heard in one of the testimonies, that when our last stake president was called one of the bishops had said, I don’t like the way he talks! He then went out of his way to get to know him better, had them over for dinner. How many times have we said we don’t like someone before getting to know them. I know I am terrible for that… We can do the same, get to know someone and close that gap.

READING 6: Doctrine and Covenants 1:38 warns: “Whether by mine own voice or by the voice of my servants, it is the same.” There is so much safety in knowing God has provided us with a prophet to get through the last days of the world. It is one of His gifts of love to our children and our willingness to follow the prophet he has chosen is our message of how much we love and trust God. It is our testimony in action—and a testimony that is words without action does not have the power to bring us back home to God.

Whom the Lord calls, the Lord qualifies. Those who he calls are blessed to have the right words, so long as they remain worthy to receive them. They are able to open their mouth and speak the words that the Lord wants them to speak. Joseph Smith said on more than one occasion that he was not mighty in words but the Lord promised him, as recorded in the doctrine and covenants: "It shall be given you in the very moment what you shall speak and what you shall write." There is no recorded evidence that he ever spoke from a prepared text!, something else we learnt during stake conference.

I'd like for once to share a rather personal experience. I was called as the ward relief society president just 18 months ago. I was 32 years old. I always assumed the RSP was someone in their 40s or 50s, or even older, not someone my age! In fact, at first I was convinced that my husband and bishop had set me up for a joke. When beautiful Sister Evans, our stake RSP sat with me, I said. I can't do this. I'm so awkward. I always say the wrong thing at the wrong time. Her words were simple but perfect. “If you do the right thing and pray for the right words, you can open your mouth and they will come. And you can be assured that they will always be the right words.” I don’t think I’ve become any less awkward, but the words have come.

READING 7: President Eyring shared a beautiful story about one young man's example of sustaining his Church leaders: Years ago an 18-year-old student showed me what it means to sustain the Lord’s servants. I am still blessed by his humble example. He had just begun his first year in college. He was baptized less than a year before he left home to begin his studies at a large university. There I served as his bishop.
As the school year began, I had a brief interview with him in the bishop’s office. I remember little of that first conversation except that he spoke of his challenges in a new place, but I will never forget our second conversation. He asked to see me in my office. I was surprised when he said, “Could we pray together, and may I be voice?” I was about to say that I had already prayed and expected that he had as well. Instead I agreed. He began his prayer with a testimony that he knew the bishop was called of God. He asked God to tell me what he should do in a matter of great spiritual consequence. The young man told God he was sure the bishop already knew his needs and would be given the counsel he needed to hear. As he spoke, the specific dangers he would face came to my mind. The counsel was simple but given in great clarity: pray always, obey the commandments, and have no fear.
That young man, one year in the Church, taught by example what God can do with a leader as he is sustained by the faith and prayers of those he is called to lead. That young man demonstrated for me the power of the law of common consent in the Church . I spoke recently with that young man who sustained his bishop years ago. I learned that the Lord and the people had sustained him in his call as a missionary, as a stake president, and as a father. He said as our conversation ended, “I still pray for you every day.” ("First Presidency Message: Called of God and Sustained by the People," Liahona, June 2012)

What are some ways we can support or help leaders of the Church both locally and on a larger scale. Ideas include: by our faith and prayers in their behalf, by helping when they ask us, by accepting callings extended to us and most importantly, by following their counsel.

May I leave you my sisters, with an encouragement to not only sustain your church leaders, but to take opportunities to tell them that you do! If you like a talk someone gives, tell them. If you like a lesson, take the time out to let them know. If a leader goes out of their way to help you or your family, show your gratitude by telling them, then helping someone else.

sources:
http://www.ldsliving.com/FHE-Sustaining-the-Prophet/s/78555

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i am so so grateful for the women who have sustained me. it's the sole reason i can keep going in this sometimes very difficult calling! ♥

Sunday, April 4, 2010

csi: jerusalem



i am well aware of the fact that easter is not about chocolate (although it is always appreciated!) and it was nice to have to plan a lesson for the youth (12-18 year old girls and boys) at church that was centered around the death of christ and his ressurection on the third day. it's a fabulous time of the year and it was a blessing to see the youth go about their "crime scene investigation" on the empty tomb.

how blessed we are to know what we know!
no questions are unanswered - no stones are unturned
- and nothing is left undone for us

i know that my redeemer lives!
not that he lived, that he lives!

happy easter!

... all the armies that ever marched, all the navies that ever sailed,
all the parliaments that ever sat,
all the kings that ever reigned, put together -
have not affected the life of man on this earth
as much as that one solitary life...

jesus christ